My dear girl, the day you see I'm getting
old, I ask you to please be patient, but
most of all, try to understand what I'm
going through. If when we talk, I repeat
the same thing a thousand times, don't
interrupt to say: "You said the same thing
a minute ago"... Just listen, please. Try to
remember the times when you were little
and I would read the same story night
after night until you would fall asleep.
When I don't want to take a bath, don't be
mad and don't embarrass me. Remember
when I had to run after you making
excuses and trying to get you to take a
shower when you were just a girl?
When you see how ignorant I am when it
comes to new technology, give me the
time to learn and don't look at me that
way ... remember, honey, I patiently
taught you how to do many things like
eating appropriately, getting dressed,
combing your hair and dealing with life's
issues every day... the day you see I'm
getting old, I ask you to please be patient,
but most of all, try to understand what
I'm going through.
If I occasionally lose track of what we're
talking about, give me the time to
remember, and if I can't, don't be
nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know
in your heart that the most important
thing for me is to be with you.
And when my old, tired legs don't let me
move as quickly as before, give me your
hand the same way that I offered mine to
you when you first walked. When those
days come, don't feel sad... just be with
me, and understand me while I get to the
end of my life with love. I'll cherish and
thank you for the gift of time and joy we
shared. With a big smile and the huge
love I've always had for you, I just want
to say, I love you ... my darling daughter.
Having the desire to help others is the calling that brings many into the “helping professions.” For others, it is the day to day service that we do for our families, children and others we work for/or/with. There is a fine line however when helping is not really helping, but rather a barrier that leads to stagnation or worse yet, fosters an unhealthy dependence. Indicators of when helping is NOT helping: 1. When the help we provide is not accepted by others The term I’ve used for years is when helping leads to “help rejecting complainers.” When our helping leads others to excuse themselves of embracing the help, then rejecting it, or avoiding it. This is not a judgment of our help or our intent, but of others’ readiness to change. They may simply not see the same way as you do. They may not value the same things. 2. When the help leads others to make the same poor decisions Any change effort has to be embraced as well as given. It is hard to un...
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