There was once a great famine in the animal Kingdom. The Lion, who was the king of the beasts announced that he was sick. Every animal was called upon to go and greet him. When it was the tortoise's turn to call on the King, he paused at the entrance to his den and looked hard on the ground. He noticed that the footprints at the entrance of the king's den went inside only, and none was coming from inside. He then turned back and went home, saying to himself, "if the King is sick with Iba(Malaria) , my blood will not be his 'agbo'(Drug) ." Think Always.
Having the desire to help others is the calling that brings many into the “helping professions.” For others, it is the day to day service that we do for our families, children and others we work for/or/with. There is a fine line however when helping is not really helping, but rather a barrier that leads to stagnation or worse yet, fosters an unhealthy dependence. Indicators of when helping is NOT helping: 1. When the help we provide is not accepted by others The term I’ve used for years is when helping leads to “help rejecting complainers.” When our helping leads others to excuse themselves of embracing the help, then rejecting it, or avoiding it. This is not a judgment of our help or our intent, but of others’ readiness to change. They may simply not see the same way as you do. They may not value the same things. 2. When the help leads others to make the same poor decisions Any change effort has to be embraced as well as given. It is hard to un...
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