One day a professor entered the classroom and asked his
students to prepare for a surprise test.
They waited anxiously at their desks for the test to begin.
The professor handed out the question paper, with the text
facing down as usual.
Once he handed them all out, he asked his students to turn
the page and begin.
To everyone's surprise, there were no questions... just a
black dot in the center of the page.
The professor seeing the expression on everyone's face, told
them the following:
"I want you to write what you see there."
The students confused, got started on the inexplicable task.
At the end of the class, the professor took all the answer
papers and started reading each one of them aloud in front of
all the students.
All of them with no exceptions, described the black dot,
trying to explain its position in the middle of the sheet, etc.
etc. etc.
After all had been read, the classroom silent, the professor
began to explain:
"I am not going to grade on you this, I just wanted to give
you something to think about. No one wrote about the white
part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot - and
the same happens in our lives.
We have a white paper to observe and enjoy, but we always
focus on the dark spots.
Our life is a gift given to us by God, with love and care, and
we always have reasons to celebrate - nature renewing itself
everyday, our friends around us, the job that provides our
livelihood, the miracles we see everyday...
However we insist on focusing only on the dark spots - the
health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the
complicated relationship with a family member, the
disappointment with a friend, etc.
The dark spots are very small compared to everything we
have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our
minds.
Take your eyes away from the black spots in your life. Enjoy
each one of your blessings, each moment that life gives you.
Be happy and live a life filled with LOVE."
Having the desire to help others is the calling that brings many into the “helping professions.” For others, it is the day to day service that we do for our families, children and others we work for/or/with. There is a fine line however when helping is not really helping, but rather a barrier that leads to stagnation or worse yet, fosters an unhealthy dependence. Indicators of when helping is NOT helping: 1. When the help we provide is not accepted by others The term I’ve used for years is when helping leads to “help rejecting complainers.” When our helping leads others to excuse themselves of embracing the help, then rejecting it, or avoiding it. This is not a judgment of our help or our intent, but of others’ readiness to change. They may simply not see the same way as you do. They may not value the same things. 2. When the help leads others to make the same poor decisions Any change effort has to be embraced as well as given. It is hard to un...
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