Jude met Tina during a program that was organised by The Law students Association to welcome freshers to THE EXPLICITS UNIVERSITY. Jude was in his second year. Jane, still fresh from the gentle studies of the secondary school and with the fear of what to meet in the University, needed an established student to put her through. She tried to get along with the female law students but it was either they were busy with reading or they had no time for catch-ups. There was this trait that pissed her off the more about majority of her senior colleagues, they were sadists. Smile at them, they won't smile back and when you greet them warmly in five sentences, the would find it difficult to reply in two words. She was resolving to swim the ocean without any lead head when Jude came into the fray. What Tina liked most about Jude was the way he related with her as if they had knew each other for years. She was blew away when she knew through the M.C that Jude was the best 200 level student with a CGPA of 4.55. Jude was happy when the master of Ceremony introduced him, it was such a honour and even a way to impress the 'jambito' beside him. He really wanted to get closer to Tina and the revelation was an opening. They exchanged contacts and that was the beginning of the relationship. Through their first semester together; their friendship was one of the best on campus, Jude made efforts to be the lead head that Tina wanted. At the end of the first semester, Tina had a CGPA of 4.35 to the delight of Jude who was holding firmly to his high CGPA too. But things took a twist in the preceeding semester as Tina found new friends. Unknown to Tina, Seyi and Titi were unserious students that relied on bribing their ways instead of reading. They enticed Tina with gifts and money, with the hope of getting her assistance during examinations. They invited her to a party, at first she hesitated but after alot of compelling, she obliged them. It was her first time at a night party but she didn't find it difficult to adapt because Seyi and Titi put her through. They introduced her to Temmy D; a rich young man on campus who was always ready to spend any amount to get what he wanted. Temmy D and Tina danced together. It was a great moment for Tina because she enjoyed every moment of the party. Temmy D offered to drop her at home in his car. Temmy D asked wooed her but she turned him down. She was in love with Jude. The party and even Temmy D was just distractions that she won't allow to overwhelm her. When Temmy D halted in front of Tina's hostel, he asked for a peck before she alighted but Tina declined. Tina went in with a decision not to see Temmy D again. Jude was already in her room, waiting for her. "Tina, where have you been and your dre...." Jude was asking but Tina cut in. "Sorry for not informing you earlier, my friends invited me to a party. It was a great time out and I really enjoyed myself." she said, giggling but Jude was not impressed. He checked the clock,it was eleven. "Tina, do you know the time, it's 11. I've called you for countless time and you didn't pick." he alleged. "oh sweetie, I'm so sorry." she pleaded. She promised Jude never to attend parties again at the expense of her studies. Jude couldn't go back to his hostel that night. The next morning that happened to be a saturday, knocks on the door woke them up. Tina was baffled, she was thinking of who could be at her door on such an early morning. She opened the door, it was Temmy D with a bunch of flowers in his hands...... To be continued.
Having the desire to help others is the calling that brings many into the “helping professions.” For others, it is the day to day service that we do for our families, children and others we work for/or/with. There is a fine line however when helping is not really helping, but rather a barrier that leads to stagnation or worse yet, fosters an unhealthy dependence. Indicators of when helping is NOT helping: 1. When the help we provide is not accepted by others The term I’ve used for years is when helping leads to “help rejecting complainers.” When our helping leads others to excuse themselves of embracing the help, then rejecting it, or avoiding it. This is not a judgment of our help or our intent, but of others’ readiness to change. They may simply not see the same way as you do. They may not value the same things. 2. When the help leads others to make the same poor decisions Any change effort has to be embraced as well as given. It is hard to un...
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